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1. Who (to date) has been the most inspiring person in your life? Why?
That's a toughie. I've learned so much from all my friends, and a number of you inspire me to strive towards excellence. I have to say, though, that Teresa and her death has made a big impression on my view of reality. I've learned that you've just got to keep trying, not matter what. I've also learned that the sad truth is that when people say "Everything will be OK" they are right, but that the definition of "OK" gets redefined. Finally, her death really drove home to me that life is short and my time here is limited and passing quickly.
2. What is your biggest current challenge on your weight maintenance journey, and how do you plan to overcome it?
There's a few challenges that I give equal weight to (no pun intended ;-) ). First is that my maintenance caloric intake is pretty darn low. Trying to meet that and get enough protien is a daily struggle. I crave sweets and chocolate, so I struggle to allow for that but not overdo it. On the horizon is learning to plan meals with another person (J/S), who is supportive but who has never had to do the WW lifestyle. I've been successfull heretofore because I've had mostly complete control over my food environement. I think talking and planning meals on a weekly basis is the only way we're going to meet this challenge.
3. What's one of the funniest stories about living with your ex?
Ya know, I can't think of anything that's happened recently that you haven't heard before. I identify with the author Lois Macmaster Bujold's Beta Colony culture, so I think a lot of the humor comes from my "practical" (for lack of a better term" response to some of what shows up im my house. I still like the story of how I had a "weather and the roads"-type conversation with a very tall, very dolled-up model while I was trying to pack for a tourney. Then there was the time Owen and his assistant had prepped for some weird goth-shoot that had fake blood artfully dribbled in the basement and the cats got down there and I had to shoo the cats out while trying to get them not to track fake blood in the house OR create little kitty prints (which I'm sure was not the look Owen was going for... ;-) ).
4. Why do you think you are sometimes initially perceived as being "prim and proper?"
I think that when you have good posture and are generally polite you don't meet the stereotype of the Wild And Crazy Sex Positive female. I think, sadly IMHO, people see sex as transgressive, and/or they have to make sex (seem?) transgressive in order to enjoy it. Like I said, growing up in the SF Bay Area in the experimentation times of the 60s and 70s has made me like a Betan from one of LMB's books. I'm very sex-positive, but I don't read "transgressive" to people.
5. On being a consort to a Duke - has this changed your perspective about the fighting community in the SCA? How?
It has given me access to people that I did not (and probably never would have had) before. This experiance is still new and I'm still learning from it -- I'm sure that when J/S and I get to live together both will increase. But my first thought has been that now that I've met and talked to people on "both sides of the WK fighting fence" I can say that my impression is that everyone is a nice guy. This is why I've been so adament in my conviction that no one is evil, they just see reality differently. Now, I do have opinions -- I believe some actions to be ill-judged and mistakes -- but I don't think they came from patently evil intent. I also think that while I knew fighters mostly did artsy-stuff too befpre, now I have a better handle on what they're doing specifically, because I have more contact with them.
1. Who (to date) has been the most inspiring person in your life? Why?
That's a toughie. I've learned so much from all my friends, and a number of you inspire me to strive towards excellence. I have to say, though, that Teresa and her death has made a big impression on my view of reality. I've learned that you've just got to keep trying, not matter what. I've also learned that the sad truth is that when people say "Everything will be OK" they are right, but that the definition of "OK" gets redefined. Finally, her death really drove home to me that life is short and my time here is limited and passing quickly.
2. What is your biggest current challenge on your weight maintenance journey, and how do you plan to overcome it?
There's a few challenges that I give equal weight to (no pun intended ;-) ). First is that my maintenance caloric intake is pretty darn low. Trying to meet that and get enough protien is a daily struggle. I crave sweets and chocolate, so I struggle to allow for that but not overdo it. On the horizon is learning to plan meals with another person (J/S), who is supportive but who has never had to do the WW lifestyle. I've been successfull heretofore because I've had mostly complete control over my food environement. I think talking and planning meals on a weekly basis is the only way we're going to meet this challenge.
3. What's one of the funniest stories about living with your ex?
Ya know, I can't think of anything that's happened recently that you haven't heard before. I identify with the author Lois Macmaster Bujold's Beta Colony culture, so I think a lot of the humor comes from my "practical" (for lack of a better term" response to some of what shows up im my house. I still like the story of how I had a "weather and the roads"-type conversation with a very tall, very dolled-up model while I was trying to pack for a tourney. Then there was the time Owen and his assistant had prepped for some weird goth-shoot that had fake blood artfully dribbled in the basement and the cats got down there and I had to shoo the cats out while trying to get them not to track fake blood in the house OR create little kitty prints (which I'm sure was not the look Owen was going for... ;-) ).
4. Why do you think you are sometimes initially perceived as being "prim and proper?"
I think that when you have good posture and are generally polite you don't meet the stereotype of the Wild And Crazy Sex Positive female. I think, sadly IMHO, people see sex as transgressive, and/or they have to make sex (seem?) transgressive in order to enjoy it. Like I said, growing up in the SF Bay Area in the experimentation times of the 60s and 70s has made me like a Betan from one of LMB's books. I'm very sex-positive, but I don't read "transgressive" to people.
5. On being a consort to a Duke - has this changed your perspective about the fighting community in the SCA? How?
It has given me access to people that I did not (and probably never would have had) before. This experiance is still new and I'm still learning from it -- I'm sure that when J/S and I get to live together both will increase. But my first thought has been that now that I've met and talked to people on "both sides of the WK fighting fence" I can say that my impression is that everyone is a nice guy. This is why I've been so adament in my conviction that no one is evil, they just see reality differently. Now, I do have opinions -- I believe some actions to be ill-judged and mistakes -- but I don't think they came from patently evil intent. I also think that while I knew fighters mostly did artsy-stuff too befpre, now I have a better handle on what they're doing specifically, because I have more contact with them.
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Date: 2009-11-19 08:17 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-11-19 11:14 pm (UTC)Me too! I tried, but
Date: 2009-11-20 03:35 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-11-20 04:34 am (UTC)1. I greatly admire your ability to stay calm and reasonable and in control. Any tips you'd like to pass on?
2. You once wrote something (very loosely) like "Given the right people with the right attitudes I could build a WK EQ community/program that would be of great reknown all over the known world". I'd like to hear more specifics on your Dream Vision of our WK EQ College.
3. I know a couple of people (food enthusiasts) who would like to get into raising chickens, esp. hisoric breeds. Any advice you'd like to pass on to them?
4. I'm not clear on how many horses you have, or entirely sure if you keep them on your own property. Details?
5. Did you and you husband discover the SCA together or separately?